Note: This is a guest post written anonymously by a commander’s wife.
I’m just going to start out saying it. I don’t want to be in charge of the spouses club.
I’ve never been a very good member of the spouses club. I don’t attend socials, I don’t volunteer with the annual chili cook offs or craft sales, I don’t even attend the annual ball. I think my current club has a Facebook page, but I’m not even sure.
When I move, I don’t go looking for other military spouse friends. It is a perk when I make friends with someone who happens to be a military spouse, but I have just as many civilian friends as I do military ones.
Honestly, I’ve never felt that need for community with other spouses. I have never lived on base and I hardly ever sit and talk about my husband’s job or what’s going on in his office. I don’t typically even talk about military life, aside from when and where we are moving to or from.
Every time I move, I attend a few spouses club meetings to test the waters, but I have never feel comfortable.
But now, it’s my responsibility to be in charge of the club, and I’m nervous.
I’m nervous because I don’t know anything about being a part of the spouses club.
I’m nervous to have another really big commitment on my plate, and I’m already stretched enough as it is.
I’m nervous that I won’t do a good enough job, and I’ll let the club down.
But, the biggest thing, the thing that I’m the most nervous about saying out loud is this. I’m a bit resentful for being asked to take on this huge responsibility purely because of my husband’s job.
But, that being said…
I promise that I will try.
I can see the bigger picture here and I’m willing to take on the responsibility.
I can’t believe that I’m old enough to be the Commander’s Wife, but I guess I am. Because my husband and I have been a part of the military so long, I have some experience.
I will take this on because there are spouses who will need someone to talk things through, and I can be that person.
I will take this on because, there are women who are going through huge life changes like new marriages, new babies, and new towns. Many of them will be doing it alone without family support and possibly without their husband. I can help give them the community they may need.
I am willing to be someone’s emergency contact.
I know the struggles of military life. I have lived them, and I can provide some insight.
I will be a rock for those spouses, because I know what it means to be strong.
Even though I’m not all that excited about this responsibility, I’m looking forward to being stretched out of my comfort zone. I’m looking forward to the challenge.
I will go into it with an open mind and heart, and I promise that I will try to fulfill my duty to the best of my ability.
Because, whether I like it or not, it is my duty.
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